Friday 23 September 2011

Decisions decisions

Decisions decisions
People make countless decisions throughout the course of their days and lives. Most are made without a lot of thought, as the differences in consequences of wearing this shirt as opposed to that shirt are minimal in the grand scheme of things. There are, however, choices that come up, now and again, that seem to be more substantial: Do I ask for a raise? How should I spend my yearly vacation time? Should I spend more time exercising or working on my yard? Some of these choices can really influence how other areas of life turn out.
Recently our 2002 Grand Am broke down and the cost of replacing the engine is more that what the vehicle is worth - $5300 for a new engine vs. $3000-4000 for a used one (source Consumer Report online). I know a replacement engine would extend the life of the vehicle but the bones of the vehicle are essentially 10 years old. That used engine would still likely be 2 grand plus (again only slightly less than the cost of a used one).
I know my problems are not unique. In fact, I believe these are the types of issues that pop up in people’s lives all the time. The kinds of issues that emerge that are not the end of the world but still take up a lot of time and energy in a person’s life. I think that between cars breaking down, faucets leaking, layoffs and company shut downs, investments going sour, and major construction happening on the road you take to go to work that we all contend with an unfortunate number of ‘B’ and ‘C’ grade problems almost all the time. I’m actually somewhat surprised that we all stay as sane as we do.
I’ve dealt with most of the aforementioned problems (and others) or have had someone close in my life deal with the ones I haven’t. There is seemingly an infinite number of ways to approach or deal with any of these. There are self-help books, advisors and consultants, tradespeople, counselors, friends, family members, and the good old “I’ll figure it out on my own approach” (along with countless others). Which one(s) do you use? I know for me it depends on what is going on.
During our recent car troubles I have opted to take in a lot of different thoughts and opinions regarding what we could or should do. I am lucky that I know so many different people, with varying backgrounds, all with unique experiences. Where it gets interesting is how there really is no unanimous or prevailing opinions. Some people are drawn to the 0% financing (or rates close to zero). Others point to the immediate devaluation of a new car the second it is driven off the lot. Some focus on warrantees and others on finding “gems” for a fraction of the cost of something new(er). I am also well aware that, whether new or used, some makes and models are better than others, both universally and when you look at specifics such as reliability, gas mileage, etc. Having so much information to draw upon and consider has made a complicated decision with many implications that much more challenging. *I am thankful for the people who have took the time to share their thoughts and opinions - I had to get that out there because it’s the truth. Your input has been taken into consideration. If our decision does not follow your beliefs I hope you will not take it personally.*
At this point I am really seeing that no matter which direction we go in that there are pros and cons to each decision we could potentially make. We could spend a couple of grand for a used engine and hope for the best. The costs would be the lowest (plus) but we could find ourselves continuing to dump thousands of dollars into a dying cause. For the last few years we have been putting in the kind of money into repairs that could have easily covered the cost of a car payment, even though we own it. The troubling thing with this is that the repairs are impossible to see coming and they usually happen at the most inopportune times.
We could opt to move to the next price point and look for a used Rio or Corolla for $5000-7000. We could get several good years out of it and maybe more if we get a make that has the constitution to last for 250,000 to 300,000 kilometers. But we could also inherit “drag-racing David’s” car that he bagged to all hell before selling it to the dealership or current owner, making it just as likely to end up in the same situation as the Grand Am. If we find a gem then we are totally the winners. If we get a lemon then we are in the same boat as right now.
Dealerships (and private sellers) sometimes have nice vehicles that are only a couple of years old that are a “fair” (sometimes) bit less than the ticket price of new vehicles too. I find this situation just as tricky because finding that relation between price drop and the age/kilometers on the vehicle is not a clear science. Dealing with (car) sales people can be challenging at the best of times and they usually try to make negotiations lean in their favor. This is to say nothing about having to take what is there/not having the luxury of picking the options and features you most like. All of this is happening at the same time as the price, or monthly payment amounts go up from the aforementioned options.
New vehicles are great. They have that smell in it that sadly fades after a while. Friends and family ooh and ahh over the new purchase for a while, and you know how it was driven from day one (save for some test drives it was likely on). You get the best warranty available, as well as interest payments on loans as low as 0%. The big issues here are the cost is always going to be the highest here (a $20-30,000 loan is huge for most people I know) and the novelty wears off eventually (the shiny new toy becomes old news as the next biggest and best thing, complete with bells, whistles, and trinkets rolls into the market). I’m also familiar with the term buyers remorse. In our particular case, even though the cost might be highest, it is somehow nice to know that we will not need to seriously consider getting a new vehicle for like 8-12 years (we bought an Elantra last November). Reliability is key here.
A few factors we will need to consider when making our decision: Some of the improvements in fuel economy in vehicles over the last several years has impressed me and with gas prices high (and only set to rise) I know this will have to be a major part of our decision. With Edmonton (and other modern cities) sprawling at what seems like an uncontrollable rate I can not undervalue how far a tank of gas will take me. I am also thinking a bit in the future too of how my family is set to grow by one right away. At some point junior will have hockey and/or dance equipment and we may be responsible for chauffeuring around him or her and all of their friends - how big of a vehicle is big enough for these kinds of things? Will there be more kids (a future blog perhaps)? I love Canada with all my heart, and much of our year is absolutely beautiful; however, we all know there are at least a few weeks every winter where it gets brutal (roads, temperature, etc.) and getting around becomes difficult. In my neighborhood having a bigger vehicle (at least like a CRV size) would have made me late for work a few less times and avoided us getting stuck in several awkward situations (middle of a residential intersection). But, for much of the year such a large SUV is overkill, especially as mostly a commuter vehicle. Would I be the person people shake their heads at thinking to themselves: “why is only one person in such a large vehicle?” So many different considerations...
The long and short of it is that we will have to make a decision soon and even as I write this I am not certain which option seems best. Our city is not yet conducive to effectively using public transit and with a pregnant wife we will need two vehicles in our family, even though the timing of having to absorb this cost right now is horrible (is it ever a good time? hmm...). We will have to accept responsibility for all the pros and cons that come with our choice and hopefully it will be the right one. So in the near future prepare to hear me tell about how much I hate Grand Ams and how I regret getting the used engine, my 2006 Elantra that needs new brakes 9 months from now, my 2010 Escape that has unnecessary features I didn’t really want, or my Prius that I brag about its fuel efficiency (but that I secretly cry myself to sleep at night over the monthly payments I got myself into). Regardless of what we end up finding wish us well - we will need it as we head into the shark tanks (the metaphor I feel is most appropriate when I think about car dealerships). Thank you all for your thoughts and input into this huge decision.

Friday 16 September 2011

Choosing favourites

Have you ever had a tough choice to make? Who would be the best man at your wedding? What you were going to take in college? Whether to stay at a job, out of familiarity, or whether to look for something else, because you knew that a change would do you good? Well, I can say yes to all the former questions. In fact, I am projecting all those out to you because I have had to make them in my life.

According to the app on my iPhone (iPregnant) it will be 9 weeks, 2 days, 18 hours, 35 minutes, and change,  until my wife and I are projected to have our first child (should the baby go to full term and there be no complications). This is exciting, nerve-racking, and a plethora of other things all at the same time. With this date fast approaching I know that I will have to do the responsible thing and consider whom I would wish to care for my child should something happen to my wife and I. It sounds a little morbid, but at the same time intensely practical. On the one hand I see myself as being truly blessed with a great number of wonderful people in my life. On the other I have come to contemplate how far the connections of these relationships actually go. I've heard some people say: "man, I'd do anything for you!" and appear to mean it, but what exactly do those promises mean? Does that mean they would take a phone call at 3am if I've had a rough day? Would they take a day off work to help me move? Would they take a second mortgage on their home to pay for experimental treatment were I to get extremely sick? Would they avenge my death if I were murdered? Hmmm......

Where I am going with all this is this: who in this world would I trust the most to take care of my legacy should something happen to me? Who would accept that responsibility? Who would pass on the values to them that I would want them to learn from me? Would that person or persons have the means to give them a comfortable and happy life? Would they accept the offer and follow through during a tragedy? I'd like to think that I have a least a few friends who would and perhaps they might. However, the more I think about it the more I believe that a family member, more specifically an immediate family member, might be the wisest choice (at least with my current thinking).

Maybe it is me having studied a bit of evolutionary psychology? Maybe it is more of a belief that there would be more of a vested interest in a family member wanting to do what it takes to ensure their linage is passed on through the ages? I'm not sure, but it does seem like in the family versus friends debate that family gets the upper hand. Am I done yet? Nope.

Parents versus siblings? On the one hand either one of our sets of parents (who are both very special) could offer a lot. They have less bills, more time, and are truly excited for the addition to the family. But, and there's always a but, their time, theoretically at least, is a lot more limited than, say, one of our siblings. With our siblings there are other considerations to be made. To an extent they are each in the process of establishing their lives and may be trying to get to the place where the parental figures are with regards to money and time. This is to say nothing about the differences in personality styles, values, and subtle lifestyle preferences. I have been humbled by the idea that if we were to ask any of them (and they were to accept the responsibility) that our unborn child would be getting all the good they'd offer with all the bad. We are all a mix of positive and negative - the hardest part of thinking about this all is knowing that I/we won't be a part of it were something to happen to us.

My dilemma concludes like this though. In picking one we are essentially not picking the others. I know though we are all grown ups, and just like the guy who is nominated for an award but doesn't get it but still congratulates the actual winner, there are hurt feelings when we are not chosen, passed over, or otherwise not selected. In reality, we have some wonderful people in our lives. I know should the worst happen that "Junior" (our affectionate name for our unborn child - we have chosen to not find out if it s a boy or a girl) will be in good hands and that they would bond together for his/her good. I hope that we can avoid any kind of family disharmony when we make our decision and. This choice will be tough. I hope that our unborn child, families, and friends appreciate the thought and effort we have put into this decision and will be part of the village we will need to raise our child in approximately 9 weeks 2 days 18 hours, and 16 seconds, 15, 14, 13.....